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可以影响孩子一生的家长语言，你值得拥有！

来源：西安瑞思少儿英语 时间：06-06

可以影响孩子一生的家长语言，你值得拥有！

经常会听到这样的家长心声

为什么，我付出了所有

Ta还是不懂事、不听话...

为什么，我尝试了那么多办法

Ta还是作业拖拉、胆子小...

也许，你的孩子只是缺少了一点鼓励

热爱足球的小男孩，在老师眼里并不是一个出色的足球选手。

尽管老师并不看重这个孩子，但妈妈并没有丧失对孩子的耐心，鼓励他说：

“在这之前，你完全不会用头去顶球，但现在你偶尔也能做到了呢，再努力一点就够了！”

妈妈的鼓励，给了孩子很大动力。他并没有因此而气馁，反而更加努力地练习，克服了自己的弱点，练就了成熟的“头球”技能。

比赛快结束的时刻，小男孩用自己曾经不擅长的头球，追评了比分。

有时，让孩子改变的，也许就是那一句简简单单的鼓励。

许多家长也都明白鼓励孩子的重要性，

开启了各种夸娃模式~

“你真棒”、“你真聪明”、“这孩子真听话”

这类话语更是成了爸爸妈妈爷爷奶奶的口头禅

但，你的鼓励真的正确吗？

我们会认为，这些所谓的表扬

可以让孩子更自信、更懂事

更强大、更优秀......

但事实上好像却又不是那么的理想

......

我们一直在表扬孩子，期望对他有好的影响。

但实际上，却是在一定程度上“伤害”了孩子。

此刻，你可能需要重新思考一个问题：

一味地表扬，真的是一种鼓励吗？

其实，表扬教育≠鼓励教育

为了证实“表扬”与“鼓励”会对孩子成长产生不同影响，斯坦福大学著 名心理学家卡罗尔•德韦克，对纽约20所学校的学生做了长期地跟踪研究。结果表明：无论孩子有怎样的家庭背景，都受不了被夸奖之后遭受挫折的失败感，越是经常被表扬的孩子，越想逃避遭遇失败的风险。

所以，在家庭教育中，我们应该多一些能让孩子自主解决问题的鼓励引导，少一些让孩子有“自满”情绪的无效表扬。

（PS：快来一起看看经常受到鼓励的孩子的心理感受）

多鼓励，少表扬；多描述，少评价，才能更好地避免孩子被表扬“绑架”。

身为家长，该何去何从？

表扬不是鼓励？夸奖不是鼓励？

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